Dating scene in NYC from the French point of view

L'ex

I haven't been around lately because it has been crazy! Oh OUI FOU!

I am still dating or should i say now "seeing the same Garcon= guy"
yes let's clap our hands! Hourra! yes but not that quick!

It is always like this, when everything is going well, that something happens not necessarily bad but still... Voila, MON EX EST DE RETOUR= MY EX IS BACK!!

what a bummer!

it took me months to get over him because of course he broke " my little COEUR" and of course he had to make a come back when i was getting on my feet! C' est toujours comme ca!

So he called me ' out of the blue", i almost fainted, ok it seems exagerated! but it is true i have been waiting for this phone call, trained myself for hours, days and months that if he calls back " i will tell him to go f... himself"!!" Et bien, you know what?!

i was " une poule mouillee"+= a wimp!! a big wimp!

My heart was racing so much, i could hear myself breathing ! How pathetic! Thinking about it! grrrrr. what an idiot!

After 5 minutes, i succeed in getting my acts together but i was still "weak"! And all of sudden, the only sentence that i could hear was " are you free for a drink next week?" and before i realize what i was saying, a BIG OUI came out my mouth, merde, merde, too late!

He kept on talking saying how excited he was to see me! and moi, i was speechless, numb! we hung up and i realized that i didn't know the day, the time, the place! A black out total!

I didn't call him back even though it was "itching" and until now i still don't know! i don't know what to do. I am in a relationship and i am better and now "THIS ONE" is coming back!

Why do we always have to like the ones that are not right for us?

L' E-Mail

So we have been dating for 2 weeks more or less, i am still shocked! OUI, 2 weeks in NYC means
2 years in another country...

So everything goes smoothly, we try to see each other every day, sending textos and calling all day and then you are thinking " waou, it is serious" but let's not forget i am from France and he is from the "US" THEY think differently!

i am pushing myself " relax ma fille, ( french expression) take one step at a time", ' ne mets pas la charrue avant les boeufs"= (translation more or less_) don't put the cart before the beefs! So hard, so hard! but am working on it...

Anyways, 2 nights ago we are chatting on messenger, talking about his day, my day, blabla. And while i am talking ( i am multitask! ) i am checking my e-mail and see i have received an e-mail from a guy on jdate! obviously, the tentation is too strong i go on jdate.com.

In the meantime, i am still talking to 'my date of the moment" or should i say ' the guy i am seeing" ( hmm, need to think about what is the most appropriate...).

I am checking out the guy ( honestly, it was really, ONLY curiosity and OK, i admit a little bit for my ego... this website thing gets you addicted, it is nuts! ) and i don't know why, how, i decide to check the profile of the " guy-date-whatever" let's call him B.
( i can't give his name because if he finds out about this site, he could just sent me back to the first base without earning the 20000 dollars = Monopoly game)
and i start to look again at his picture, hmm so cute... reading againg this essay...so smart... and keep reading so excited when all of sudden, I AM HORRIFIED! I see " last login" 1 minute ago: translation he was on the website 1 minute ago!!!!!!!!!

We are still on messenger and i am trying to calm myself down, maybe he has good reason! YEAH RIGHT, like i had a good reason to go on jdate.com it was to see who sent me an email, but hey it is different! and he doesn't have to know anyways!

So out of the blue ( i couldn't hold my tongue) i asked him "have you been on the website site recently' and he simply responded "yes today" like it is normal and i couldn't help it ( i have known him for 2 weeks! i am pushy, i know but i can't help it, it needs to be said!) and started to ask questions" why, how, what for, etc..." and then all of sudden after answering my questions, he wrote " and you when was the last time you were on the site? he took by surprise, i could still feel myself blushing ( the good thing about messenger he can't see me OUF!!!) and i say " hmm, today too!" and he goes so you see "we are on the same page especially since you have been on the site 2 minutes ago!"

My words fail and for once i just shut up and say " 1-1" the ball is the center and then he wrote a BIG LOL... i am relieved! However, we told each other no more jdate!

Am i going to succeed? hmmm it is another question.

p.s; FOR THOSE WHO WANT TO KNOW WHEN I UPDATE MY "ADVENTURES", E-MAIL ME AND I LET YOU KNOW!

the 1st "official" rendez vous

i took some time before writing this post because i needed some time to think, enjoy and come back on earth after this 1st "official" rendez vous or as American-Newyorker people will call it a " second Date".

What an event!

We have been text messaging and calling each other the whole week, i was waou! he is too normal,is he for real? it may sound too much but believe me when you have been through dating in
New york city you really become paranoid!

We decided to meet up at 8;00pm Uptown.
I left the office at 5;30pm, i needed at least 2 hours to be ready. I figured knowing myself, i am going to change of clothes approximately 10 times
(which happened!), i needed to figure what i was going to do with my hair ( yes a big challenge!) since he already saw me as a "sheep" i figure it will probably be better if he sees me "straight'! and it takes a lot of work...

After being ready, i needed my cousin's approval. And of course, he had to tell me to change and here i am again, trying to get dressed up doing a 'defile" it is 7;30pm?!!!? i am going to be late!

What a rush, i am stressed!
i ran to get a cab and of course i had to forget the address! I called cousin and he couldn't find it, so i tried to call my date, impossible to reach him! everything was going so well!
I got into the cab and tell him , lets go Uptown and he goes east or west! i had a total black out, impossible to remember! I am stressing! I am like think about your hair!
(yes, stressing= schvitzing= curly!! and that we don't want!

My date called me and gave me the address ( ouf!!) he tells me to relax he was already there waiting for me! hmm, i am relieved!

i got to the restaurant and before entering a weird feeling seized me: i was afraid but a good afraid feeling, i was excited and happy! it was so new to me, hmmm a delice....
i took him by surprise! and he reacted like in a 'cinderalla' movie type and just said
"You look BEAUTIFUL! and then he won me over of course! smart the " mec"="guy".

We had a beautiful dinner, talking, drinking and having fun! i have never felt so good! But in the back of my head, i couldn't help thinking " is he going to kiss me tonight"?? or am i going to wait for a 3rd date? (he is really formal and very conservative!) not that i wanted to jump on him! but... i wanted to know...
you understand, right?

Then, we left the restaurant and we started to walk, just to walk, and he took my hand
( and iam LIKE YES!!!)! after 10 minutes walking which is very long especially when you have one thing in mind "le bisou. le bisou"... he stopped and said he had to call it a night because he had to wake up very early! and now what?

my heart is racing of course, my palms are sweaty... and before i know it he gave me this famous BISOU!

the chemistry worked beautifully... i am simply in heaven!

"La rencontre"

Thursday happened to be the big "day" (it is almost seem i am talking marriage!)..... I didn't say anything because i was afraid it was going to be again a disappointed moment! i learnt my lesson and it seems you need to " shut up' sometimes to make it happened!

Anyways, he called me up and we set up the time after work! No needs to say how frantic i was the whole day, i couldn't concentrate, my hair so straight (blow dry "oblige" ) became so curly that i looked like a " mouton", i mean it was phenomenal!

Our date was set up at 7;00pm he picked up a cafe ( which sounded weird to me because in general, you choose a bar to make the person drinks a little in order to ease up the situation of the blind date, he wasn't of this kind!). he chose a spot close to my office which i think was kind of him. ( i know i am a bit too much!).

Iam always late, so for once i have decided to leave far in advance so at 6;15am,i was out! A BIG PREMIERE! i walked slowly, do my usual phone calls when i go on a blind date. Call cousin and my best friend telling them where i was going! Ok a bit paranoid but HEY YOU NEVER KNOW!

While i am started to walk, it started to RAIN! wonderful, i was already looking like a sheep and now i was a GIANT MOUTON! so i got to stop at the Gap store and bought a hat! i needed to cover the disaster!

In the meantime, he called me up and he told me he was running late, and am thinking here we go again! i called my cousin who told to go anyways and to wait... which i did...

I got there at 6;45pm ( i have never been so early in my whole life! ) and now i am finding myself sitting on a bench in front of a cafe staring at the rain! How romantic, especially when you are alone! Un BONHEUR!

I tried to call him and guess what?!?! VOICE MAIL!! and i am like ok, keep cool! My cousin called me back and i told him, he convinced me to stay! yeah... easy to say when you are curly, soaked and everybody is looking at you like " poor girl" sitting on the bench, not that i cared but i have to admit i was feeling down for myself!

7;00pm, still no one... it is getting on my nerves, big time! i try again and voice mail!! ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! but i waited...

7;15pm; someone showed up in front of me! ( i was in my world!) and say "Sally" and i am like "oui" i looked him up and couldn't speak maybe because i was pissed or because i was numb! so he goes lets go inside and the first thing he said when we got in was' sorry for being such an A..." and then i started to laugh! he marked a point!

We stay there for 3 hours straight!!!!! until now i can't still believe it! I thought he was cute ( exactly like the pix! surprisingly!) we spoke about everything and we realize we were opposite but so opposite! he is so formal as i am crazy, he is so into fat ( sugar free) but i am so French that fat doesn't count!!

From such a different background but so many topics to talk about! it was really nice and he is really kind and sweet ( ok hold on a second am not "in love"!! )

And then time came that we had to leave, it was 1030pm not bad for a first date! And my favorite scene happened ( the american scene as i call it):) he asked me if he could see me again! I am like YES!!!!! but i played it cool like " sure, it would be nice" ( girls will understand it!).

Just a time out why " american scene" because in France the guy will try to kiss you and will tell you " i call you tomorrow" which he would do!

back to the end of the date, he gave me a big hug! and said i call you sometimes this week! ( i am thinking we are thurdays then when?!?!) i didn't open my mouth and just nodded! and he left!

Conclusion: i like him he was really nice and enjoyed his conversation! let's see for the second date!

I have to say it, i couldn't resist when going hom sending him a "texto" to thank him for the coffee! he replied immediately and i thought i marked a point:)

As of today, i haven't seen him yet too busy but we are supposed to meet up this week! but he calls and he subscribes to the "texto" Isn't it somthing?