Dating scene in NYC from the French point of view

Suite et FIN DE CE BLOG.....

it seems that it is going to be my last post on this blog... for some good reasons:)
Since october 31st a few things, as you all know i have moved in with my bboy and i have to say it was not the easiest thing to do OYE VEH!!!!
after some ups and downs, we Finally found our pace, moi accepting his MESS and him, i guess dealing with my : FRANCAISENESS and my very "gentil" temper.... it has been  a roller coaster lets put it this way but  with nice bumps and some "moche" ones as well.
Anyway, i wanted to thank you all for reading my blog and supported me on keep doing it but i guess c ' est la fin de la dating scene.

DO YOU WANT TO KNOW WHY?

ok, i am going to tell you.... be ready for my next post...

GOTT" YA...  regardez the next one and you will understand...........

MY HALLOWEEN PARTY!

what a wonderful night! i am coming back from work FATIGUEE like everybody, when to my dismay i see my bboy lying down the bed, his paperwork all over the bed, the chaussures thrown away, no needs to say that clothes on the floor. FABULEUX C est GENIAL! ( fabulous! it is amazing!)
so like a normal FRANCAISE, JE HURLE ( I SCREAM!) and he is like what is happening with you?
And i become HYSTERIQUE (hysterical) we French people have this tendency to be very EXPRESSIVE! so NOUS CRIONS!

Je suis de retour....

It has been a while, i have just realized more than 3 months and so much can happen in 3 months. Let me tell you zis....
Par ou commencer ( how to start...). I have to admit the "dating scene is no longer "partie de ma vie" et be oui since i am still with b boy i should reinvent a title for my blog like " how to live with an American" from a French point of view. Yes you all guessed: ON A EMMENAGE: WE MOVED IN.... YES YOUPi oh OURRAY!!!!!!!! MAIS PAS SI VITE ( NOT SO QUICK!!!) C EST DUR: IT IS SO DIFFICULT... a daily work and on top he is AMERICAN, please do not take offense but ah la la la....
we have moved in almost a month ago, deja! Upper West Side, should we say very JAPPY?!! heuu bof maybe more like JFP ( jewish French Princess), ok just kidding....
so here we are, moving furniture around, choosing blinds, and MOnsieur needs to be part of everything or in charge of TOUT ( ALL) even the way i put food in fridge has to be under control ( normal if you want it to be kosher!!!) but not with a boyfriend. He is driving me nuts.
Ok i am not easy but PLEASE!!!!!!
A week ago, i went out for dinner with my girlfriends for a change of scenario cuz seeing boxes " partout" all over the place, it gets to you. Anyway, Boyfriend has decided to stay in. So after a nice hot evening, i came home to find my HOMME, sleeping like a big BEBE.
As i walked into the bathroom to take a shower to my huge ETONNEMENT or should i say to my disbelief, i saw clothes on the floor from socks, t shirts and so on, i has the feeling he wanted to leave his personal "touch" and what about one!! AU SECOURS!!! PLEASE HELP ME!!!
but it got worse as i am about to jump in, i open the shower curtain and then to MY ENORME SUPRISE!! the bathtub was really, lets say colorful, no the more appropriate word will be " HAIRY" an " HAIRY BATHTUB" just of thought of it GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR.........
I probably spent more than 1 hour cleaning his mess while mister was sleeping peacefully!!! VIE DE COUPLE....
In the morning, i woke up like a nutcase to confront him before he was about to leave for work and then asked him " what happened yesterday? tu es FOU ( are you nuts?!?!). Please hold your seat now: do you know what he told me and i quote " it is ok i would have cleaned as the end of the week the clothes and the bathtub" Entre nous , we were SUNDAY!!! A WEEK, he could have waited a week....

Should i say that my MEC is simply out of his mind or simply a regular " MEC" ( GUY)???
Welcome to my real world.

Sefarade et Francais

I was thinking about " this race of man" and i would say it is "unique" ok, keep it in mind as well that my definition is GENERALE and very subjective since it is from my own experience, this be said: let's try to define this " special individual":

Le mec juif sefarade" the sefardic French Jew" is usually very close to his family, his buddies and to his roots!
SA MERE " his mother" she is usually very " present" in his life, not to say very overwhelming because his SON IT IS HER VIE so when you understand this "relationship" you will understand why she calls him 10 times a day or will do whatever it takes to please her...

La BOUFFE " the Food", he couldn't live without it: he could originally be from Tunisia, Marocco or Algeria, his mum's dishes mean the world to him and you will never know how to cook like her. He'd rather miss a dinner with you than " a coucous" or a " Daf" or i don't know what else. ( entre nous, i have to say those meals are really good:)

SES POTES: "his buddies": everything that he is not supposed to do, he will do it with them. LES FEMMES, LE JEU ( gambling), Les CLUBS, LES CARTES ( CARDS GAMES). TOugh sometimes to deal with him because you deal with THEM AS WELL. OUCH...

L' HOMME HIMSELF: he is a very " show off" GUY, he likes to have the most beautiful things ( clothes, watch, shoes, best car, best whatever...) IT HAD TO BE THE BEST OF ALL... he can't help it it is part of who he is, the need " de Frimer". He has a very STRONG " temperament" , a very MACHO attitude: ( dur dur: tough to deal with) A HUGE EGO LIKE A HUGE BALLOON.

On the other hand, he is a very giving person, his Femme as he likes to call her is very well taking care of: bah oui, he wants to show that she has the best things and that she is the most beautiful person on earth. ( he is very delicate!). UN HOMME QUOI~

LA FEMME: his Copine plays a role but a second role at the beginning, oui he wants her around but he wants his space too: for his leisures (family and his BUDDIES). He likes to control her : 9 lets not read too much into it) but on the other hand, he is going to bring his CHERIE in the best places. offer the nicest gifts and he is going to be nice to her, don't get me wrong.
After a certain time, when he realizes that his Cherie, becomes really important to him he softens and starts to let his guards down ( i guess like anothe man) but still in control: there is no way for him, that a woman pays for a dinner ( QUELLE HONTE! WHAT A SHAME) or that she pays for anything, he is in charge BUT OUI HE IS THE MAN!! DON"T DARE TRYING TO PAY FOR ANYTHING! For him, his wife is supposed to stay ( it is a generalite, s il vous plait!) home and take care of the kids and he is the one who is supposed to provide everything: material wise.

this man is a "poem" as i will call him because despite all his attitudes, he has usually a very nice heart and his family represents a lot to him.

in Paris, this type of guy is common and i have to say before i came to the US, i didn't know wny different from this "guy" so imagine my surprise...

I just want to mention that this definition applies from my own experience and nothing else. I don't know Teri if you could relate to it, let me know what is your deal is with this SEFARADE FRANCAIS...

Suite et fin... Texas

Oui, i met the parents... after 7 hours of flight, 2 stop overs and 5 meals later... What an experience it took me as long to get there than to go to Paris... Une drole d experience.

I felt i was arriving in a different world, you know like i would see in movies, guys with cowboys hats and shoes! like in Dallas, you know the TV show ( desolee, the only thing i could relate too!)

Then, the mum came to pick us up at the airport and then direction the house. OUi, you don't live in an apartment there but in a big MAISON ( house) it was kind NEW.

So we got there and i met the PERE ( aie aie, the DAD), he is a very impressive homme, am like oh la la la, he was really kind and welcoming, ouff i was starting to relax a little bit...
The Mother showed us " NOS CHAMBRES" ( ours bedrooms) we are not married so... Moi, i was fine by it... actually, i was relieved. but i know someone who was " pas content" ( not glad): BBOY. C est la vie et c est comme ca! As the song says.

we stayed in Texas for 4 days and you will never guessed what happened???? after the first night, it had to happen, I GOT SICK oui MALADE, A COLD BIG TIME.... ok some said it was psychological but hey you know what et ben NON.. fever, etc... I couldn't move from the bedroom. GENIAL< FABULEUX!!!

The Pere then came to my bedroom and asked me how i was feeling and i am like okay, i am great, with my hair messed up, my running nose, yes I FELT Great! then he told me you have to see a doc and i am turning to see where was my BBOY and he was standing there like " dad is right". I got desperate, i tried to convince them but The PERE told me " if you are not feeling go see the doc" euhhhh ok, i don't want to offend you ok ok: je cours ( i run) see a doc.

I don't why and how it happened, but i felt like i had in front of me my Own Dad and my Papi ( grandfather) in this man and it touched me so much that i had to listen to him. From this moment forward, i was like it feels like kind of my own home... Weird feeling when you think that i am probably 10000000 km from home.

So, oui i went to see the doc and indeed i had a cold and indeed he gave me medicines and yes, i had to stay in bed! WAOU a wonderful trip!! But an amazing family i have discovered very warm and friendly. But OUI, it was worth it! I couldnt thank them enough for being so kind.

then, the 4 days flew quickly and evidemment i felt great on our day of departure! I got the chance to see a little a bit of Texas (quand meme!! even with my red nose) his high school his friends. The best part of all this trip was that BBOY was so excited to show me everything that it made my whole trip.

Now, that i went to see his FAMILLE now his turn to meet mine. euhhh, it is going to be something.

Next trip: Paris NOUS VOILA!!

Ok C est mon 2nd Retour!

Ok ok je sais... It has been 3 months since i have wrote my blog! I am really NULLE!! I know...  but i am back... oui je sais.. i have said that different times but now it is true...

so many things have happened those last 3 months; NON DON"T GET ANY wrong ideas i didn't get married believe me; I WOULD HAVE TOLD YOU....

I  have so much to say that i will ask you to bear with me because i really need to be organised. i need to finish to tell you my trip in El paso, my trip from Paris with BBOY and the family:  A PREMIERE and few other things.

Also one last thing, message for Teri, FRANCAIS AND SEFARADI WHAT A POEM A MAN LIKE THAT... i tell you "mon experience" very drole!

i hope you are all well and i will write later... my boss i think is going to be "fou" if he sees what i am doing....

la rencontre avec les parents...

A big step in my life! The Meeting of the Parents it makes me think of the movie " meet the parents" I know a little bit "cliche" ! However, if it is going to be like the movie" i fly back to France...

I am leaving for a few days for my bboy's town to meet family and friends! Should i say genial? hmmm... I tell you when i get back... Audrey i think we are leading towards a " VRAI DE VRAI relationship" like in Europe, you know...
Anyway, so i shall be back soon... I think it is going to be " ca passe ou ca casse"= " it works or it breaks" ( i mean more or less!)

TO BE CONTINUED...

Ma Meilleure amie's post

This new post has been written by My best friend to answer
Stephanie's blog:postcard_from_heaven_on_earth.typepad.com . I guessed it opened a "vrai" debate. this debate seemed to become deep to Ma meilleure amie's heart ( Merci Stephanie:) It is funny at the beginning, she was all hesitant and a la fin, she couldn't stop!!! C est Genial...

It is a really interesting post and more serious than i could be! I am too much French and maybe she is too English! that's why maybe we are "compatibles''
Enjoy and do me a favor, it is her first post ( so send her some comments, s il vous plait! )

MAIS SHUT!.....don't tell her that i wrote it:)

Hi Stephanie, i think u may well have opened up a fun debate ..well for the women of the blogs world at least. The men may run a mile!!! truth hurts right guys???!
Frenchieee is my best friend so i can safely say that she wasn't solely referring to the sexual aspects of relationships...u are right sex is only 1 aspect and perhaps not the most important but BOY if it aint there it aint worth continuing. For a relationship to work and be solid u need intellectual stimulation and physical, there are no questions there...
I think Frenchieee on behalf of all of us females is trying to figure these "Menschs" out. Why are they so confusing?! i mean they sit and complain that we are "naggers", that we are too demanding, but at the end of the day at we tell it how it is! we have a problem, we have issues we just come out and say it! men listen and want to move on without finding solution. As my friend says they are simple POULES MOUILLEES!!!

On a more serious note I think u bring up a super important point...we sound like SHRINKS!!! we women must like ourselves. it is hard! i am the first to admit it. I am more of the world of giving to others before taking care of myself. BUT with age and experience (am in a relationship!!! so i know!) you really do have to take a step back and ensure you get what you need. Your philosophy of women needing to believe in themselves and in their needs to better control their relationships is a great point and a must for a healthy relationship. Why should the men be the assertive ones!! oh by the way i am not a FEMINIST.Download odyssey_native_new_yorker.mp3

Bonne Annee!!!

I hope you all had a nice new year's eve and you all have taken new resolutions for this year 2006!

Moi, i didn't this year! i realize each year we decide to do this, that but at the end of the day! RIEN! ABSOLUMENT RIEN! Therefore, i have decided i will go with the flow... hmmm i mean except maybe one thing: to love and be loved... oui, it sounds poetic but it is not so easy! it is probably the hardest thing! OYE VE!

Recently, i have realized or let's say my girlfriends made me realized that it is not LES FEMMES who have a problem with "being involved" or trying to find love!

IT is ONLY " LES MECS" =Guys

Yes, they want to be free but at the same time have several " friends with benefits" ( oui, it is a new expression, be ready for this one maybe because i am Francaise i didn't know it could exist) it means litterally a " copine with no strings attached" or in a different language " a booty call"....
Waou c est magnifique!!!
Yes, no hassle about calling back, no arguments, see the person when there are not with their buddies or they are not loaded with work. They always have excuses! DEs Cons= jerks! or maybe coward?!?

And we: Femmes have to always wait after them! UN REVE....

Recently, a girfriend of mine was really excited because she had met this Cute guy; they are always SO F....Cute at the beginning but wait for the end! Am i being negative? oui et non: i have facts!

If i tell you that she had to wait a month before seeing him again! OUI OUI! And hold on, she did her part! waou what a woman! She asked a friend of hers to get his phone number (c'mon in which world do we live in now? girls must chase for a number??! ) and then after leaving a few messages! Monsieur decided to call her back a week later, in the meantime no needs to say she was in Pieces... then he called back, they talked for an hour and he did acte 1 scene 1, let's meet up.

Ecoutez= listen up: they met indeed, although she had to wait in the cold, the snow for 1 hour: ( she got her a... frozen for A MEC! ) apparently, they missed each other because there were 2 subways exits! And like a Smart HOMME, he didn't think about taking her cellphone number with him!
Intelligent this man!

But ma copine being very smart she went to the spot where he was supposed to meet with a friend. Oh i forgot to mention, because "he was probably a big POULE MOUILLEE" ; he set up a date for 3 people! He needed a CANDLE holder...

She stayed with them! oui oui THEM. And after the drink, ( he offered... hey What a gentleman!!) she realized that he was supposed to have dinner with THE CANDLE HOLDER and his parents leaving her where???!ON THE BENCH!!! et oui, she was not invited...

N est ce pas merverlous?

but he was a gentleman til the end " he brought her back to the subway" this time, he found the way! And after hesitating "if he should stay or he should go" probably a "guilty trip" for a second and a half but it went away quickly because you know WHAT, HE LEFT................

Believe it or not, after this "threesome date' he has never called her back! not even to find out if she got home safe!

MAIS WHERE ARE THE MENSCHS?
Nowadays, finding a man is it really "difficile" but why so?

It makes me think about" the March of the Penguins" ( beautiful movie). The penguin is a Mensh! he find his mate stays with her ( meaning he doesn't date! ) and he takes care of the baby!
Even animals are more sensitive!! ok ok, i have generalized! but when you think about it, it is true!

Or maybe we should adopt " the shiddur attitude" like orthodox jews do: they meet 2 or 3 times ( before they meet, the woman and the man have checked " all the references regarding the person"... ok different universe!) and after a few dates, they decide if they want to get married! EH OUI, it is quick but apparently efficient! Although it is another debate!

But where is our parent's generation? they have succeeded in meeting someone they loved, the proof we are here and we are longing for love!! what was so different? Until now, i still don't understand!

What is the secret to meet a decent someone who wants what you want? Ah la la! On est pas sortie de l auberge= it is not easy!

However, i would like to finish on a positive note like my grandma says: " chaque marmite a son couvercle": each pot has its own cover" let's hope she is right....

Les opposes s'attirent!

I have always heard "the opposites attract each other" but i have always doubted about it... but i have to say i am changing my mind enfin presque!
my bboy as i like to call him, is someone i could have never seen myself with HE oui!

First he is American ( please don't take any offense about what i am going to write!!! i am speaking about my "case"!) and i am Francaise: two countries who love each other so much but it is another debate...
so as an american he likes his country and he is very proud of it, Moi i couldn't care less i don't stand up when they sing the Marseillaise ( I have never been asked to do so!).

When we speak VETEMENTS ( clothing) that's different. my love cheri couldn't care less what he wears, he could wear a sweatshirt with holes it doesn't matter ( his answer is " i love it it feels comfortable!) and i am AU SECOURS! how can you wear sweatshirts with holes?!? Do i sound French? yes i know.
For us ( French people), even if you go out to buy a baguette you have to be at least HABILLE et oui, jeans, sweatshirts ( no holes! my mum could die) shoes but NO WHITE SOCKS, please!

As a kid i have always been told " s' il te plait tiens toi correctement" meaning "please behave correctly" sitting at table.
The first time, we went to a restaurant. ( I forgot to say, table manners in France is a really sensitive subject......)

As i have been told and as i have been doing for 20 years, i put my napkin on my laps waiting for the food.

My love cheri left it on the table ( ok c est un detail i admit it).
Then they brought us our glasses of wine.

AND YOU KNOW WHAT HE DID???!!

he has started to drink without saying "tchintchin" i was shocked! ( believe it or not i am easy going!!!) and then, i asked him "don't you cheer in the US?" And he simply answers "OUI we do" with such a detached air like what is the problem!? Ok, great! but in the end we cheered! HOURRAY!

Then they brought up the food and we started to eat, when all of sudden i raised my head and i saw my bboy " fighting" with his steak as i am staring at the scene, i can't help it but laugh and i am thinking what is he doing?!?!
He had planted his fork in the middle of ths steak and with this other hand ( obviously) he was trying to cut a piece: i had never seen someone trying to cut a steak like this!!! and then he looked at me and asked me "why are you laughing?" and i tried to explain to him how he should try to cut his steak but it was
'en vain"... after this episode, i told next time we should just get a sandwich! easier!

I think the best part of our relationship is the music. My love cheri loves but loves Rock ( me too but not all of it!!!) but some rock i have never heard before! i can't even give a name of a band! And when i ask him do you like this... he replies who is that... Ce n est pas gagne! But in the end we find a compromise on his itunes we have a folder for him and a folder for me! Isn't it great?! so one time it is turn and the other time it is MY turn!

Despite all those "differences" i could write 10 posts about the subject! I have come up to realize that we have something really unique and magic: our ability to communicate and to be comfortable with each other's differences. He taught me that backgrounds and languages are nothing when we believe in the person and also that everything can change.... He is learning French....

La suite of the ex... August, 29th

I have admitted i have PECHE' (sinned!) but it wasn't a big sin but yes, i have failed let's be honest...

Last time, i was saying that my EX called me back and i didn't know what i was going to do...
OUI... my A... i knew deep down! OUI OUI, JE L ADMET! ( i admit it) I MET UP WITH HIM!

I will spare the MENSONGES ( lies!) i had to tell to my " boyfriend" ( it is for another post! it is interesting!) and the 'guilty trip" that possessed me before the "rendez vous". BUT... the rendez vous was at lunch so it is less bad! AM i getting somewhere with those sentences??! hmmmm... i doubt i guess i needed to get it out of my system....

So yes, he called me back... my knees shaking evidemment... when i heard his ringstone ( i am cheesy i put his own ringtone) and ok I admit " SA PHOTO"... what a combo! it is a bit too much... Anyway.

He came to pick me up down to my office... oh la la quelle ANGOISSE ( what an anxiety) and i saw him in his car and i am telling myself " it is going to be ok it is only 1hour and you have someone in your life" the blabla... but my heart sank when i saw his face, i really don't know what it is about him.

If he was "une bombe" i will understand but he is not even cute, he is "bla". He was on the phone like usually and he welcomed me like "hey what's up dude"! UN REVE... the kind of welcome you will expect from someone you haven't seen in ages and you used to like. Quel con!

He has hung up after 10 minutes...so nice... hmmm... and he didn't even asked me how i was doing or anything and i am like what am i doing here! it made me feel better strangely and i started to relax and thinking how lucky i am to be with my bboy now!

We went for lunch and for 1 hour he only talked about himself, his job and i am AU SECOURS someone helps me. i find him " MOCHE, DEBILE, ETC..."= ugly. After realizing that i was totally over him, i excused myself and left. He has insisted for me to stay but i am like " sorry Dude, got to go"

the moral of the story, yes i have lied ( ok it was a petit mensonge:) but on the other hand it allowed me to realize that there were gaps between fantaisies and reality.
I wanted to find some sparks like before and wanted him to fall in love with me... but i realize I wanted my ego to be boosted and my fantaisy to be real only about UN MEC who was all along, just a big jerk...

Je suis Nulle!

Ok, Je suis "nulle" ( i SUCK ! big time! ) i know i was supposed to write a new post but i took a vacation, and now i am in Israel! So busy, rediscovering this country that i have forgotten New york  City, not that i don't miss it but...

I have a few stories from here, interesting... A few tips, guys are really Really beautiful! WAOU!!

I will really be back on the track, next week! So bear with me!

The " poule Mouillee"

L ' absence....

I was out of service as we may say! So many things have happened recently that i won't even know where to start! Sorry if i haven't given any news... i should get back to my postings this week! Before the holidays!
I have so much to write...

i wish you all Shana tova  if i don't write before this time of year!

but i will be in touch with my new " aventures' of the "poule mouillee" yes because lately, i have been a " grosse poule mouillee".

I hope you are all well...

L'ex

I haven't been around lately because it has been crazy! Oh OUI FOU!

I am still dating or should i say now "seeing the same Garcon= guy"
yes let's clap our hands! Hourra! yes but not that quick!

It is always like this, when everything is going well, that something happens not necessarily bad but still... Voila, MON EX EST DE RETOUR= MY EX IS BACK!!

what a bummer!

it took me months to get over him because of course he broke " my little COEUR" and of course he had to make a come back when i was getting on my feet! C' est toujours comme ca!

So he called me ' out of the blue", i almost fainted, ok it seems exagerated! but it is true i have been waiting for this phone call, trained myself for hours, days and months that if he calls back " i will tell him to go f... himself"!!" Et bien, you know what?!

i was " une poule mouillee"+= a wimp!! a big wimp!

My heart was racing so much, i could hear myself breathing ! How pathetic! Thinking about it! grrrrr. what an idiot!

After 5 minutes, i succeed in getting my acts together but i was still "weak"! And all of sudden, the only sentence that i could hear was " are you free for a drink next week?" and before i realize what i was saying, a BIG OUI came out my mouth, merde, merde, too late!

He kept on talking saying how excited he was to see me! and moi, i was speechless, numb! we hung up and i realized that i didn't know the day, the time, the place! A black out total!

I didn't call him back even though it was "itching" and until now i still don't know! i don't know what to do. I am in a relationship and i am better and now "THIS ONE" is coming back!

Why do we always have to like the ones that are not right for us?

L' E-Mail

So we have been dating for 2 weeks more or less, i am still shocked! OUI, 2 weeks in NYC means
2 years in another country...

So everything goes smoothly, we try to see each other every day, sending textos and calling all day and then you are thinking " waou, it is serious" but let's not forget i am from France and he is from the "US" THEY think differently!

i am pushing myself " relax ma fille, ( french expression) take one step at a time", ' ne mets pas la charrue avant les boeufs"= (translation more or less_) don't put the cart before the beefs! So hard, so hard! but am working on it...

Anyways, 2 nights ago we are chatting on messenger, talking about his day, my day, blabla. And while i am talking ( i am multitask! ) i am checking my e-mail and see i have received an e-mail from a guy on jdate! obviously, the tentation is too strong i go on jdate.com.

In the meantime, i am still talking to 'my date of the moment" or should i say ' the guy i am seeing" ( hmm, need to think about what is the most appropriate...).

I am checking out the guy ( honestly, it was really, ONLY curiosity and OK, i admit a little bit for my ego... this website thing gets you addicted, it is nuts! ) and i don't know why, how, i decide to check the profile of the " guy-date-whatever" let's call him B.
( i can't give his name because if he finds out about this site, he could just sent me back to the first base without earning the 20000 dollars = Monopoly game)
and i start to look again at his picture, hmm so cute... reading againg this essay...so smart... and keep reading so excited when all of sudden, I AM HORRIFIED! I see " last login" 1 minute ago: translation he was on the website 1 minute ago!!!!!!!!!

We are still on messenger and i am trying to calm myself down, maybe he has good reason! YEAH RIGHT, like i had a good reason to go on jdate.com it was to see who sent me an email, but hey it is different! and he doesn't have to know anyways!

So out of the blue ( i couldn't hold my tongue) i asked him "have you been on the website site recently' and he simply responded "yes today" like it is normal and i couldn't help it ( i have known him for 2 weeks! i am pushy, i know but i can't help it, it needs to be said!) and started to ask questions" why, how, what for, etc..." and then all of sudden after answering my questions, he wrote " and you when was the last time you were on the site? he took by surprise, i could still feel myself blushing ( the good thing about messenger he can't see me OUF!!!) and i say " hmm, today too!" and he goes so you see "we are on the same page especially since you have been on the site 2 minutes ago!"

My words fail and for once i just shut up and say " 1-1" the ball is the center and then he wrote a BIG LOL... i am relieved! However, we told each other no more jdate!

Am i going to succeed? hmmm it is another question.

p.s; FOR THOSE WHO WANT TO KNOW WHEN I UPDATE MY "ADVENTURES", E-MAIL ME AND I LET YOU KNOW!

the 1st "official" rendez vous

i took some time before writing this post because i needed some time to think, enjoy and come back on earth after this 1st "official" rendez vous or as American-Newyorker people will call it a " second Date".

What an event!

We have been text messaging and calling each other the whole week, i was waou! he is too normal,is he for real? it may sound too much but believe me when you have been through dating in
New york city you really become paranoid!

We decided to meet up at 8;00pm Uptown.
I left the office at 5;30pm, i needed at least 2 hours to be ready. I figured knowing myself, i am going to change of clothes approximately 10 times
(which happened!), i needed to figure what i was going to do with my hair ( yes a big challenge!) since he already saw me as a "sheep" i figure it will probably be better if he sees me "straight'! and it takes a lot of work...

After being ready, i needed my cousin's approval. And of course, he had to tell me to change and here i am again, trying to get dressed up doing a 'defile" it is 7;30pm?!!!? i am going to be late!

What a rush, i am stressed!
i ran to get a cab and of course i had to forget the address! I called cousin and he couldn't find it, so i tried to call my date, impossible to reach him! everything was going so well!
I got into the cab and tell him , lets go Uptown and he goes east or west! i had a total black out, impossible to remember! I am stressing! I am like think about your hair!
(yes, stressing= schvitzing= curly!! and that we don't want!

My date called me and gave me the address ( ouf!!) he tells me to relax he was already there waiting for me! hmm, i am relieved!

i got to the restaurant and before entering a weird feeling seized me: i was afraid but a good afraid feeling, i was excited and happy! it was so new to me, hmmm a delice....
i took him by surprise! and he reacted like in a 'cinderalla' movie type and just said
"You look BEAUTIFUL! and then he won me over of course! smart the " mec"="guy".

We had a beautiful dinner, talking, drinking and having fun! i have never felt so good! But in the back of my head, i couldn't help thinking " is he going to kiss me tonight"?? or am i going to wait for a 3rd date? (he is really formal and very conservative!) not that i wanted to jump on him! but... i wanted to know...
you understand, right?

Then, we left the restaurant and we started to walk, just to walk, and he took my hand
( and iam LIKE YES!!!)! after 10 minutes walking which is very long especially when you have one thing in mind "le bisou. le bisou"... he stopped and said he had to call it a night because he had to wake up very early! and now what?

my heart is racing of course, my palms are sweaty... and before i know it he gave me this famous BISOU!

the chemistry worked beautifully... i am simply in heaven!

"La rencontre"

Thursday happened to be the big "day" (it is almost seem i am talking marriage!)..... I didn't say anything because i was afraid it was going to be again a disappointed moment! i learnt my lesson and it seems you need to " shut up' sometimes to make it happened!

Anyways, he called me up and we set up the time after work! No needs to say how frantic i was the whole day, i couldn't concentrate, my hair so straight (blow dry "oblige" ) became so curly that i looked like a " mouton", i mean it was phenomenal!

Our date was set up at 7;00pm he picked up a cafe ( which sounded weird to me because in general, you choose a bar to make the person drinks a little in order to ease up the situation of the blind date, he wasn't of this kind!). he chose a spot close to my office which i think was kind of him. ( i know i am a bit too much!).

Iam always late, so for once i have decided to leave far in advance so at 6;15am,i was out! A BIG PREMIERE! i walked slowly, do my usual phone calls when i go on a blind date. Call cousin and my best friend telling them where i was going! Ok a bit paranoid but HEY YOU NEVER KNOW!

While i am started to walk, it started to RAIN! wonderful, i was already looking like a sheep and now i was a GIANT MOUTON! so i got to stop at the Gap store and bought a hat! i needed to cover the disaster!

In the meantime, he called me up and he told me he was running late, and am thinking here we go again! i called my cousin who told to go anyways and to wait... which i did...

I got there at 6;45pm ( i have never been so early in my whole life! ) and now i am finding myself sitting on a bench in front of a cafe staring at the rain! How romantic, especially when you are alone! Un BONHEUR!

I tried to call him and guess what?!?! VOICE MAIL!! and i am like ok, keep cool! My cousin called me back and i told him, he convinced me to stay! yeah... easy to say when you are curly, soaked and everybody is looking at you like " poor girl" sitting on the bench, not that i cared but i have to admit i was feeling down for myself!

7;00pm, still no one... it is getting on my nerves, big time! i try again and voice mail!! ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! but i waited...

7;15pm; someone showed up in front of me! ( i was in my world!) and say "Sally" and i am like "oui" i looked him up and couldn't speak maybe because i was pissed or because i was numb! so he goes lets go inside and the first thing he said when we got in was' sorry for being such an A..." and then i started to laugh! he marked a point!

We stay there for 3 hours straight!!!!! until now i can't still believe it! I thought he was cute ( exactly like the pix! surprisingly!) we spoke about everything and we realize we were opposite but so opposite! he is so formal as i am crazy, he is so into fat ( sugar free) but i am so French that fat doesn't count!!

From such a different background but so many topics to talk about! it was really nice and he is really kind and sweet ( ok hold on a second am not "in love"!! )

And then time came that we had to leave, it was 1030pm not bad for a first date! And my favorite scene happened ( the american scene as i call it):) he asked me if he could see me again! I am like YES!!!!! but i played it cool like " sure, it would be nice" ( girls will understand it!).

Just a time out why " american scene" because in France the guy will try to kiss you and will tell you " i call you tomorrow" which he would do!

back to the end of the date, he gave me a big hug! and said i call you sometimes this week! ( i am thinking we are thurdays then when?!?!) i didn't open my mouth and just nodded! and he left!

Conclusion: i like him he was really nice and enjoyed his conversation! let's see for the second date!

I have to say it, i couldn't resist when going hom sending him a "texto" to thank him for the coffee! he replied immediately and i thought i marked a point:)

As of today, i haven't seen him yet too busy but we are supposed to meet up this week! but he calls and he subscribes to the "texto" Isn't it somthing?

Le Retour...

if you want to know what happened... he has indeed called back!!!! Frank,you were maybe right he was perhaps busy! but still...

i didn't take the phone call and yes, i wanted him to chase me and he did... What a relief! Like we say in french " fuis on te suit, suis on te fuit" which means more or less ' flee one follows you, follows one he flees you" so he was apologetic and blabla... In the end, he has called again and i have to admit i answered and i was really cold and i didn't  want him to know that i was 'down', disappointed and so on.

So,i try to play it cool ( i don't know if i have succeded) .

He asked me to ' reschedule the date" i love the expression, so formal and SO AMERICAN!
And i said i need to check my "schedule", yes of course i was playing and i told him i was going to call him back.

I did TODAY.

I called him back, before dialing i had the same feeling; butterflies in my stomac. (Audrey, i love the feeling but it is so hard to control) we chatted for 10 minutes and it was very nice and we decided to meet again but this time I won't say when... i will try to keep my mouth shut although it is ITCHING... geez...i am not still used to  what you have to go through to meet someone...

Hopefully it will happen, lets wait and see ( ONCE AGAIN!)

Disappointed!

here is the "suite" of the story!

my exciting date or my future date for tomorrow...

he has just called to tell me he was cancelling the " rendez vous" waouo it hurts... but how could it hurt since i haven't met him... weird... so disappointed! I CAN"T BELIEVE IT........

The excuse was ' i have to work late i have a deadline" doesn't it sound like a bad movie? is it real?

now the question is " what should i do or think?" And merde... a few hours ago i could almost touch the sky and now i can only touch the "pitt".

however, he told me that he will call me to reschedule our appointment!

yeah right, my A.... if he was really interested he would have worked things through, no?

Ok never mind, i am not going to be down for some guys so girlfriends " LETS GO PARTY" and forget all those guys who don't know what they want... i think also i am going to retire from Jdate or retire in one word... from this "dating debile thing"

Or maybe should i go back to Europe? isn't simple there?? ok i am totally loosing it!

No happy ending cuz no date, no "valuable" guy what a world we are living in?

An interesting Date!

I found someone interesting! i still can't believe it... I don't want to jinx it but this guy, not bad at all. i kind of like him. I know i put " the carts before the beef" ( translation in french" la charue avant les boeufs") but i like the way he talks... a good start.

we have been chatting on the site for about a week, really cool. 30 years old, divorced ( have never been marrried myself) and 2 kids ( i have none but it could be a good practice before having mine),he lives in New Jersey ( i can't even place this state on the map!) and i live Manhattan ( and Moi going to New Jersey, i doubt)

Also, he is AMERICAN and for me american means "DATE, DATE,DATE' ok. ok. ok i stop but still i wonder how we could be compatible! he doesn't even know "champs Elysees! Am i being too FRANCAISE! maybe... but anyways i like our discussion already.

Am i trying to convince myself that it could be worth it! ok let's be honest OUI ......

So we suppose to meet this coming thursday, just thought of it and my stomac is twisted! i should calm down, maybe he won't look like the pic or maybe he is going to be a psycho, geez... i am totally loosing it... ok let's wait and see for the next episode....

Hopefully, he is going to be a great guy... Does it exist a regular and normal guy in this crazy city??! i am starting to wonder....